In recent past there had been a lot of noise level around the word “Break – Up” and even there had been quite a few movies and songs made on this topic. Vivek Sharma (Social Entrepreneur)shared an incident.
I was working in my office late evening and started getting irritated for no reason. This was the time when my entire team member had left for the day and I was making a presentation for an upcoming pitch. Air conditioner was off to save electricity, but it wasn’t hot either. I was failing to understand why the hell I am getting irritated without any reason. I noticed that I’m facing a bit difficulty in typing on my laptop and all of sudden my irritation increased further; I yelled inside ‘let me fix this damn chair’ and I just stood up to change the chair. As I stood up, something said in my brain ‘Can’t you adjust it to your requirement?’ I then realized, the chair which I was sitting on is below than its usual height probably because someone used it in my absence and adjusted to his or her height. I thought within, what a waste of time and energy, after adjusting the same chair to my requirement.
Relationships are much like this. No one is good or bad in this world; it’s all about compatibility to each other’s need. My relatively mature readers (age wise) would agree with me, Divorce or Breakup were very less heard words 30 – 40 years back and it was not because almost everybody was having a perfect relationship, it was because children were tamed since very beginning on the value of relationship, love, compassion. Now a days, most people in metros and even in developing cities now, are living as nuclear families and they are kind of addicted to their so-called FREEDOM. The teenagers are in hurry to become mature and independent and, I don’t see any wrong in this. But, when it comes to relationship, they are too mild and too young to take any unexpected jolt in their relationship. The same children grow up and become matured but disoriented at relationship.
We need to understand few basic things, what goes was never meant for you and what’s yours will never go. We have a habit of attaching ourselves very easily to a negative notion/ feeling when hurt and that’s natural. We need to tell ourselves in this situation that whatever period of time we lived with the concerned person and if he/ she really mattered to us even for few months or years, we should be grateful to them for being with us for whatever amount of time. Love cannot be forced so if YOU REALLY LOVE OR LOVED, let them go and cherish the moments you spent together.
Remember your childhood? When you were hurt in your leg with a stone or something, did you cry forever?or you still cry for that? No, you cried for some time, did whatever you thought was right at that time and moved on. The same thing has to be done in a relationship as well. Nothing is permanent not even our name nor our so-called identity.
When a patient goes in an operation theatre, doctor says – please bring Mr. Sharma inside and once the person is no more, the same doctor in the same hospital and scenario says, please take the body out. Life is much bigger and beautiful than staying hurt or blaming someone for our loss. And, if you think still nothing is working out for you, start giving back to the society, community and country in whatever possible way. You’ll certainly feel better and see a newer and an unexplored world.