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‘Not Even 10 When I Was First Sexually Abused’: Barkha Dutt

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I was not even 10 when I was sexually assaulted. An older relative who had come to stay with us for a short period of time. Like many Punjabi households, ours was an open house, always welcoming to cousins and their friends, Today, decades later, I cannot even recall the precise connection of this man to my family. But, to a child’s eye, he was avuncular and affectionate and, in any case, I just assumed I was

safe in my own home.Little did I imagine that this much-older, family figure could be such a monster.

Worse still, as a child unable to figure out of what had happened—I was the one who felt grotesque and dirty. The concept of teaching your child to distinguish between ‘good touch’ and ‘bad touch’ had not yet become the enlightened norm.

But after the first few times I had innocently followed him to ‘play’ with him in his room, I was overcome by panic and disgust.I finally told my mother that something terrible had happened. My assaulter was

immediately thrown out of the house and I buried the awfulness of the memory in a deep, As I grew older, what stayed with me, strangely enough, was the rancid smell of hair-oil; even years later, anything that smelt faintly similar made me nauseous. In my growing years, I blocked out the man’s face, his name, in fact the very incident was banished to the recesses of my consciousness; but from that

moment onwards, sexual abuse had an odour In 2007, the first ever government survey of child sexual abuse uncovered that more than half the children spoken to (53 per cent) said they had experienced

some form of sexual abuse. Twenty per cent of those interviewed said they had been subjected to severe abuse, which the report defined as ‘sexual assault, making the child fondle private parts, making the child exhibit private body parts and being photographed in the nude’. Yet, the silence of young victims and the misplaced shame they felt shielded the perpetrators. These were men deeply embedded in

the family structure, it made it that much more difficult to call them out. The report found that 31 per cent of the sexual assaults were by an uncle or neighbour. So it wasn’t surprising that over 70 per cent of children had never spoken to anyone of what was done to them.

The toughest discovery for me was to find that feminism offered no shield against the vulnerability, confusion, guilt and rage you felt when you were abused. As a young adult who experienced violence in a personal relationship for the very first time as a postgraduate student at Delhi’s Jamia Millia Islamia University, my response was less confused but no easier to act on.

By now I was a self-aware young woman with strong opinions. I thought I was difficult to intimidate. I believed I would know exactly what to do if a man I was dating ever hit me. Of course I would take him to the cops, I would say with confidence when we sat around discussing how unfriendly the legal system was towards women. I thought I was never going to stand for anything like domestic abuse. It went against every book I had read, every principle I held as sacred and every bit of my self-image. Until it happened.

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Sandalwood drug case: SC grants bail to Ragini Dwivedi

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Ragini was arrested under the NDPS Act by the Crime Branch in Bengaluru and accused of links with an international ring involved in supplying psychedelic drugs at rave parties and other events. She had challenged a Karnataka High Court order rejecting bail on November 3.

Actress Sanjjanaa Galrani was also arrested in the same case and she is currently out on conditional bail.

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UP man complains Mirzapur maligns district, SC notice to Amazon Prime

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The Supreme Court on Thursday issued notice on plea of a Mirzapur resident complaining against the web series Mirzapur and Amazon Prime for maligning the image of his native place in Uttar Pradesh.

“Mirzapur has rich cultural value, but in 2018 Excel Entertainment has launched a web series named Mirzapur of 9 episodes in which they have shown Mirzapur a city of goons and adulteresses,” said the plea.

A bench headed by Chief Justice S.A. Bobde after a brief hearing in the matter issued notice on the plea Centre, Excel Entertainment Pvt. Ltd. and Amazon Prime video.

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Akhilesh questions ‘intention’ behind deferring farm laws

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Samajwadi Party president Akhilesh Yadav has questioned the ‘intentions’ of the Modi government to defer farm laws by one and a half year.

“The BJP government has extended a proposal to defer the implementation of the farm laws for the next one and a half year. The move is illogical and without any rationale. Deferring implementation of the law will not change the consequences that will follow once the law is introduced,” he said.

Akhilesh further said, “By deferring implementation of the law, the BJP government is trying to counter popular public sentiment which is growing in favour of the agitating farmers and against the law makers. The government will eventually implement the laws before the elections in 2024 to benefit the capitalists.”

The SP president has directed the party leaders and workers to dedicate their Republic Day celebrations to farmers who are protesting against the new farm laws. He asked party men to reach the venues where Indian flag will be unfurled at the tehsil level on tractors carrying the Tricolour.

He said that by taking out tractor rallies, the SP workers and leaders will only reassert their support to the agitating farmers.

Akhilesh also attacked the ruling BJP for the delay in clearing cane dues of farmers, increase in power tariff and raids by power department officials on farmers for recovery of power dues.

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